Bellingham man, 64, charged with molesting girl at Alcoholics Anonymous meeting-Breaking NEWS-Whatcom County Jail report for March 5, 2013
“ITS an outside issue”……This is what we heard all the time when we brought our MAKE AA SAFER PAMPHLET to meetings to get discussions started to raise awarenesss.
NEWS FLASH…this toddler was molested in a meeting. I am so sorry for these children. How many more children need to be molested by AA men in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings
Alcoholics Anonymous Member Safety Workshop in Lexington, Kentucky- local rapist loose in AA community -keeping it hush hush
A blogger posted this on the blog here and I am hoping to bring it into the light.
PLEASE, PLEASE if you have been raped by an AA member you must go to the police. He does not get to rape you . He will rape someone else. Anonymity has nothing to do with breaking the law. This is not what any of the traditions mean. AA literature is NOT THE LAW. AA IS NOT THE SKULL & BONES Society folks. AA’s writings were written in the 1940′s when rapists were not allowed alone with blacks and gays and prostitutes.
This what was posted:
There is going to be an AA Safety “workshop” put on by the two Districts in Lexington, Kentucky AA. I found this out very recently. I was also told that this workshop is in reaction to a woman being raped locally by another member. People I know also know the identities of the rapist and the victim, and went so far as to tell me I’ve been in a meeting with the rapist and probably know him as well; but they hide behind the misused concept of anonymity and will not tell me or anyone else who this person is. It appears though that the idea of CYA for safety is becoming more visible. I am hoping some good can come of it, at least the idea of there being a problem is starting to surface.
Some of us are always thinking about the sexual predator in AA. But we have seen some bigger stories this past year that display a not so new type of predator in AA and NA. That is the financial predator. We will begin to highlight some news stories that tell this sad tale of scam artists who prey on senior citizens who think AA members are trust worthy long before they prove themselves.
AA and NA are becoming more and more dangerous every day as there are no procedures and protocals for Safety of any kind in this 12 step culture of rouge indiviuals where the blind leads the blind. Once the gold standard of recovery many old timers are leaving for many reasons. This story is just one of them.
Fear not, there are other options. Smart Recovery, SOS, Women for Sobriety, and staying home with the family and reading a good book. Going to the Gym…PLaying a game with our children or grandchildren, Going to the movies.
Call in 818-475-9211 or chat.
Mandate That All AA Meetings Must Read Safety Statement, Have literature- implement Sexual Harassment Policies.
In April 2010 A Courageous group of AA women and men held the first ever Make AA Safer Workshop. As a result, rapes were uncovered and rampant 13 stepping , sexual misconduct , battery and cult behavior were exposed.
Quickly Another Workshop was planned and held in West Covina. More crime was exposed. Still no accountability. Some group members respond yet many scurry like rats back into the shadows.
October 2009. A long time member wrote an 11 page letter to AA World Headquarters documenting the abuses she was uncovering. There was only a response 2 months later from Robin Bromley, The Grapevine Editor. None from the Headquarters. Then nine months later a group of members sign another detailed letter of abuses written by long term member-and it gets sent to AA WORLD HEADQUARTERS in July 2010. There was no response.
Headquarters passes the buck to the groups, but the groups really have no power, and the local groups believe AA headquarters is the God that guides them.
“It Must be AA approved ” they yell with fists in the air”!
So four women get together, write a pamphlet, many groups love it, the spanish groups adore it, translate it, and others flip out when they read it. Hundreds gave their input as I re wrote it 15 times. It is currently used in over 65 meetings and growing.
Many groups , most groups, many members are very dis empowered by the rhetoric they hear in meetings over and over again.
They have drunk the kool aid for far too long…
The stories are still being collected. They get worse, never better. Sex, Rape, Sexual Harassmnet, Sexual Battery, shooting, throat’s slit in meetings and even death.
Oldtimer abuse is rampant like a bad 1950′s version of ‘BIG LOVE”.
AA Headquarters must be forced to address this serious problem that is at epidemic proportions. Please sign the petition and forward to any who will sign it.
Im so sick of this culture, mentality, the language, and their lack of intelligence etc.
If I see one more TV show that I know in my gut the writer is in some 12 step recovery /non recovering support group , I am going to gag.
Somewhere, please God, Buddha, let the consiousness of American culture open up and realize there are so many other ways to heal. This 12 step philosophy is such B*&^SHIT.
I want to be on Diane Sawyer, The View, Bill Maher, Frontline, NPR, This American Life. Someone has to care that we talk about this crazy stupid idea that does not work. Powerless is rediculous when it comes to Sex, money, food and Smart Recovery, Rational Recovery, Lifering, SOS, WFS, The CLean Slate, Beyond Rehab are proving AA powerlessness wrong even with addiction.
Help please. Some journalist…out there, please help us.
Tom Powers and Bill Wilson wrote the 12 and 12 together. Had a huge falling out due to Bill’s Sex addiction.
Tom Powers helped Bill Wilson to write Bill’s second book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Francis Hartigan, who was Lois Wilson’s private secretary and confidant, recently wrote a biography of Bill Wilson. For it, Hartigan interviewed Tom Powers, and quoted Tom as saying that he had urged Bill to quit his smoking and womanizing:
“All the while we were working on the ‘Twelve and Twelve,’” Tom said, “I would argue with him, ‘you’re killing yourself. And think about what you’re doing to Lois!”
While other people I spoke with insisted that Lois never knew about Bill’s affairs, Tom insisted that “Lois knew everything and she didn’t have to guess about it, either. A lot of people tried to protect her, but there were others who would run to Stepping Stones to tell Lois all about it whenever they saw Bill with another woman.
I asked Tom how Bill reacted when Tom would insist that Bill’s guilt over his infidelities was responsible for his depressions.
“I think that was the worst part of it,” he said. “Bill would always agree with me. ‘I know,’ he’d say. ‘You’re right.’ Then, just when I would think we were finally getting somewhere, he would say, ‘But I can’t give it up.’
“When I would press him as to why the hell not, he would start rationalizing. What would really kill me is when he’d say, ‘Well, you know, Lois has always been more like a mother to me.’ Which somehow was supposed to make it all right for him to cheat on her.”
Tom himself had also been sexually compulsive even after he quit drinking, and he found it very hard to change his behavior. …
Tom said that it took him five years after he quit drinking to change his behavior in this area, and for five years after that, he tried to get Bill to change, too. “Besides what he was doing to the women he was chasing and to Lois, his behavior was a huge source of controversy in AA,” Tom said. “He could be very blatant about it, and there were times when it seemed like the reaction to a particularly flagrant episode would end up destroying everything he had worked for. But then people would scurry around and smooth things over, or cover it all up.”
According to Tom, Bill’s behavior caused some of his most ardent admirers to break with him. Eventually, Tom broke with Bill, too.
“I told him that I still considered him to be my sponsor, but that I didn’t want to work with him anymore. I said that I hoped we could be friends, but I didn’t want to have anything more to do with him publicly. I just couldn’t go on feeling as though I was in any way supporting what he was doing to Lois — and to himself.
“Bill said, ‘Fine. I feel the same way about you, too,’ and we shook on it. As though it were some mutually agreed upon parting of the way, with fault on both sides. Which was a real switcheroo, you know. I think he knew that I saw right through it, but I guess it made him feel better not to have to take responsibility for destroying what had been a very enjoyable and productive working relationship.”